Celebrating Chosen Family and Community

Every love story deserves celebration. Over the years, working with all kinds of couples in Ontario’s LGBTQ+ community, I’ve learned the most meaningful moments come from chosen family—the friends, mentors, and allies who showed up even when the world got hard. For so many, those people are just as—if not more—important than blood relatives. They’re the ones who stood in the rain, clapped the loudest, and reminded you that love always finds a home.

Why Chosen Family Matters at Queer Weddings

Honoring chosen family means letting real love and support shine. Not every couple’s story involves acceptance from day one, but community always finds a way to grow—and it’s those journeys that make wedding days unforgettable.

Creative Ways to Spotlight Chosen Family in Your Celebration

• Processional honors: Walk down the aisle with people who shaped your life, not just family of origin.
• Co-officiating with chosen mentors or friends: Invite those who know your story best to lead or bless the ceremony.
• Group vow or toast: Have your chosen family join for a special affirmation, blessing, or toast after the ceremony.
• Special readings or performance: Feature meaningful poetry, music, or dedications from loved friends or allies.
• Table names or favors: Name tables after important folks or create keepsakes that honor your unique community.
• Recognition in speeches and programs: Share your gratitude openly for all those who got you to this day.
• Legacy rituals: Honor LGBTQ+ trailblazers, local queer organizations, or those who helped you feel safe and seen.

Tips for Building an Inclusive Celebration

• Start with your hearts: Decide together who truly feels like “family,” and let your guest list reflect your real connections.
• Communicate openly: Let chosen family know how much they mean, and involve them in roles and planning conversations.
• Share your story: Include details that honor your journey—inside jokes, shared traditions, old photos, favourite music.
• Welcome everyone, prioritize safety: Ensure all guests—especially queer and trans family—feel seen and affirmed by staff and vendors.

“Weddings are about more than just two people—it’s every soul who helped you get there.”

If your heart is already picturing ways to honor your chosen family, I’d love to help bring those visions to life. Connect with me by email, through my contact form, on Instagram, or at Facebook. Your community is your strength—and every wedding deserves to celebrate that love.